I love this! Just in that way, with serious practice, we can get the “Nos” down to a precious few! And that is a game changer. Suddenly our child experiences us as being on his side, eager to show him how we will do it, let him do it, have it, if and when we possibly can make it right for everyone in every way. So even if it’s “No” for now, it’s so much easier to take it from a parent who is always reaching for the how, when, and if for the “Yes” part of the “No”!

http://www.positiveparentingsolutions.com/parenting/start-10-tips-better-behavior