Love first, first love, before and above all else, remembering always that the child needs that special love of the Guide, which is a particular kind of love, a particular quality coming through a particular sensibility of relationship of the role. The Guide cannot offer a parent’s love nor the love of a friend, but that very specific love of a Guide for a child can help him compensate for the dearth of other love, help him know deeply that he is worthy, lovable, and that if another love is lacking it is because the other person is lacking in the ability to give it. It is not because the child does not deserve it. Because of the fullness of the Guide’s love given from within the relationship of the role, the child will gain the ability to compensate within himself for the lack of a parent’s or a friend’s love. He will know he is worthy and lovable. He will love himself.

Love First